I don't want to sound as if I'm dismissing your advice, but I really do think I am showing him I'm here for the long haul. My displays of "I don't know what to do anymore" are generally in private here or with a girlfriend. He said he wanted a divorce, but I'm not sure he totally meant it and I went berserk. HE KNOWS beyond a shadow of a doubt that I am committed to our relationship. Right before we entered counseling, I hung signs around our house, because I was trying to share with him some of what I was reading without "sitting him down".
On our family calendar... Our family deserves a peaceful home.
On our refrigerator... Give your family your BEST SELF!
In our bathroom... What can I do to make my spouse happy today?
On the back of our bedroom door... The best gift we can give to our children is parents who truly LOVE and RESPECT each other-and SHOW IT!
Above our bathroom mirror... No matter what- I am the one in control of my emotions, speech and actions.
The best place for a child is in a home with two parents who make their family the TOP PRIORITY and show love, respect, humility, and compassion.
I also hung a thing I printed off Dr. Phil.com about how to stop fighting in front of your kids. He simply said, "I saw that you hung some signs." I pulled down the "what can I do for my spouse today" when he was out of town, but the others are still up. They are good reminders, I think.
