Jazz...I would sooo be hiring you as a guitar teacher if I lived in Phoenix.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
Spoke to S4 on the phone this evening. He seems to be doing well. I'm glad. While we're talking I can hear W in the background talking to S4 and she sounds so good, just like I remember, just like I was calling from a business trip and she's going to get on the phone. But she doesn't, of course.
Gotta admit, I'm pretty tired of this - not negative, not feeling bad, it is just plain time to go home.
Oh, and if anyone is wondering, Live Free or Die Hard, is AWESOME!!!!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
Last time S4 was over, I bought season passes for us to go to the local waterpark, he LOVES it! I also got a pass for W, if she wanted to take him on her weekends. I wasn't sure how it would go over but S4 says she's going to take him this summer sometime, so that's cool!
I got her and S4 set up on my new insurance, she'll LOVE that. It's $300+ less expensive every month than what we're paying now. So that will help finances a lot.
And I saw her again the other day driving by and she smiled and waved again, silly girl - made me feel all chihuahua-ish.
11th year anniversary is the 18th, and I have big plans for that. She may not go, but I'm going and having a blast (and it's one of our favorite places, so if she manages to stay away, I'll be a bit surprised). I got her some small gifts that I know she'll like so it should be a good study either on "how to make yourself interesting to your wife again", OR "how not to pursue and set back your progress 2-3 weeks."
Now, if she'd just say I can come home, ALL WILL BE GOOD!!!!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
Yeah, a 2000 - paid off, lifted 4", 20" wheels, fat tires, only 50k miles on it or so. It's nice and W has it. That's ok, she needs the protection driving S4 around. She gets run into a lot.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
I have a 99 Durango with close to 100K. Maybe we need to contact Chrysler and tell them there's a defect with these trucks that they ruined our marriages.
Eh, it's pride, selfishness, and fear. But you know what? Chances are they deserve some payback. I know my W does. That makes it a bit easier for me to take. I know I deserve this to some extent. Now, if she was being nasty like some guys' W's on here, I'd be second-guessing myself all over the place, but she's been rather decent, other than rarely talking to me. But she's scared - scared to go back to what we had. All I can do is show her it won't be the same. It'll be WAY better, like we planned when we got married. She sees that a bit when we talk, but the time between chats makes it hard to get those good feelings to stick, you know? So I keep working on me, and I pray she likes it as my family is the most important thing in the world to me.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
I know I deserve this to some extent. Now, if she was being nasty like some guys' W's on here, I'd be second-guessing myself all over the place, but she's been rather decent, other than rarely talking to me.
Would it really make a big difference. We all probably deserve some of what is happening with our M at the moment. If some anger or being nasty at times came out, I think I would be like I am right now, somewhat deserving of all this.
Originally Posted By: JR2007
But she's scared - scared to go back to what we had. All I can do is show her it won't be the same. It'll be WAY better, like we planned when we got married.
I think alot of our spouses are more scared of "what if", more than whether they love us or not. Not in all cases, but that is what I think with mine. She is afraid of what might happen instead of thinking what could happen with me not drinking.
Originally Posted By: JR2007
So I keep working on me, and I pray she likes it as my family is the most important thing in the world to me.
I am learning that from you more than anyone, working on myself and my mental state. I also hope she likes the changes and wants to eventually keep the family together.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Would it really make a big difference. We all probably deserve some of what is happening with our M at the moment. If some anger or being nasty at times came out, I think I would be like I am right now, somewhat deserving of all this.
To some extent I think so. Or, maybe it would just be easier to not talk to her since I wouldn't WANT to hear the spew. Who knows...
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I think alot of our spouses are more scared of "what if", more than whether they love us or not. Not in all cases, but that is what I think with mine. She is afraid of what might happen instead of thinking what could happen with me not drinking.
Oh, that's exactly what my W is scared of - the "what if it goes back to being like it was???" That CAN'T happen, I won't let it happen, I just want her along for the ride, you know?
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I am learning that from you more than anyone, working on myself and my mental state. I also hope she likes the changes and wants to eventually keep the family together.
That'll keep you sane my friend.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
