The W hasn't been able to sleep lately. She says she has dreams about me having another woman and child. I try to tell her that is not the case, but she says it doesn't matter anyway. I wanted to ask her what that meant but I already knew what she would say. Why go there with her? I asked her if she was still going to go to her appointment with her T today and she said after this past week don't I think she needs to go. I just smiled and left her to her thoughts.
"You don't have to defend yourself, she will do it for you." But have to stop trying to defend yourself, I know it's hard. You could say something like "It's unfortunate that you have dreams like that or I'm sorry that you are having bad dreams " and just leave it alone.
I am still letting her bring up any R talk. She may be just going through the motions to keep the peace until she can file. I don't know. After she talked about her dream I just went numb. I think I am getting to the point to where I don't care anymore. She called her two 'Friends' the past two days. I don't know what they talked about, but she called them. So, I believe i am going into protection mode. I am going to stop caring and see how that goes.
This is not a game, you want your wife back right? You might have to go dark or do the LRT. But you are a man and you can't turn your feelings on and off like a water faucet like most woman can. You can do little things to show your love, or make sure that she has everything that she needs. But you don't have to bend over backwards or jump through all her hoops to please her.
Last edited by Cadet; 06/29/1512:58 PM. Reason: book reference not allowed
Me: 37 WAW: 31 M: 6 Years No Kids BOMB: 9/4/06 D: 9/16/07 my sitch
