CE And I always ended up promising everyone more than I could deliver, hoping that the prospect of breaking that promise would force me to deliver and show everyone (including myself) that I could deliver... that didn't usually work. I can relate to that. Keep the peace by saying and thinking I can do enough to meet other expectations.
The part about working say 6 hours and only getting 4 hours of actual work done, it didn't used to be that way but it is now.
I've been in his shoes too, but I never came out and expressed anything about how she should be. I tried to push her to be "better", failed, and eventually gave up. I spent a lot of time wondering how I could be or stay or fall back in love with someone that didn't come close to my "ideal woman", wondering if she existed, wondering if I'd find her, wondering if I'd go a lifetime without ever finding her, and wallowing in unhappiness and doing my best to hide it. I'm not sure how much she knows about that even now, but she wasn't happy either for several good reasons Similar case with me CE.
