Don't do eggshells, but just be a good friend and listener. Do NOT do any relationship talk. Ask lots of impersonal questions, let him TALK and TALK about work, any fun things he might be doing, friends he's seeing, let him talk so he enjoys talking with you. And offer support and understanding... just like you'd do with a good girlfriend who is going through a rough time. Don't expect anything from him. He is going through something and you need to back down and let him think and ponder what he's doing. Do not expect him to be who he was....

I only had a few short seconds to look over a few posts on your thread in MLC and one thing that struck me was.... well... do you think perhaps, the relationship started a bit quick? Sort of like a whirlwind romance? I could be wrong here, but I'm wondering if he bounced quickly between his previous marriage and you, and you two didn't get a chance to develop a slow, solid friendship before the marriage. What do you think about this?

My own sitch... well, we're still in a strange place. Not very comfortable because it feels like avoidance. There's this problem (things I brought up) hanging above us and neither of us wants to address it. Not good, but I don't think we're running away from each other so that's positive.

P.s. I know you are frustrated and want more out of a relationship, but you lose nothing by being his friend and working on your conversational skills with someone who is part of the male population. Even if your marriage is over you can consider this practice for future dating... not a great thought, but as I said... you lose nothing...

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.