Well apparently watching the MySpace page has more impact on you than watching our joint bank account has on me then.
OMG, do Hs watch the bank statements! Yikes! I saw our phone bill and that freaked me out until I found the name for every number was an old dude or janitorial service! But if he sees where I spend my debit card, he will know all my caffeinated secrets!
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
Another day and you're still holding in there bud.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
OMG, do Hs watch the bank statements! Yikes! I saw our phone bill and that freaked me out until I found the name for every number was an old dude or janitorial service! But if he sees where I spend my debit card, he will know all my caffeinated secrets!
I do just to get a glimpse of my W's life without me. It's pretty much Target and Walmart (just like before!) I don't do it to track her spending or anything like that. And if she was trying to hide anything from me, she'd just get cash out anyway.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
Yes I am, not saying it is perfect by any standards. All I can do is what I can do. I was reading one of the sub threads about "going dark", in reading a post by jj I think "going grey" would suit my situation better. While reading them I came to the conclusion that going dark is not what would do my wife/myself any real good at the moment. We will go 3 out of the next 5 weeks without seeing each other, now while I believe that is a good thing at the time, I think when we are both in town I do not need to avoid her. I will let her initate all phone calls or contact. With this in mind I will still be doing my best to detach and be in the best mood possible around her. In listening to her talk, I know not suppose to put much into it, but her words made me think. She did not actually say anything straight forward, but I get the feeling she does want me to be on my own for now, she wants me to find out who I am, and to figure out what my life is all about. Those are all things that I have lost over the last 20 years. By just fixating on her, I am not doing much of any thing for my own problems. So that is about were I sit for the present moment.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
OMG, do Hs watch the bank statements! Yikes! I saw our phone bill and that freaked me out until I found the name for every number was an old dude or janitorial service! But if he sees where I spend my debit card, he will know all my caffeinated secrets!
I do just to get a glimpse of my W's life without me. It's pretty much Target and Walmart (just like before!) I don't do it to track her spending or anything like that. And if she was trying to hide anything from me, she'd just get cash out anyway.
I do not do anything to track what my wife is doing or spending. I only know the cell phone, she does not have a home phone, because it comes to me and I pay it. Yes I have cheated and looked at it. The only people she calls is her parents, rarely, pizza places, rarely again, and me, more than the other 2.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
