Zuzu, the number one thing I would eliminate if I were you would be the quickness to leave and stay with your girlfriends. That's not an action that instills a sense of commitment to the marriage.
Also, is there a mature long-time married woman among your acquaintances you could talk to as opposed to your girlfriends? Most of your close friends are going to see the situation from your vantage point and be offended on your behalf. That's not a position that lends itself to helpful advice.
I'm not your husband, but if I were in his position I might find myself feeling as if I was being assessed by a gaggle of women who didn't hold me in much regard. And it's bound to impact how he feels about the time you spend with them since he is probably going to see them as opponents. And it's also going to impact how he feels about *you* every time you're in contact with them.
