I honestly think your best bet is to just stop talking to him about it or bringing it up. I'm not taking his side AT ALL or saying he's right or anything, but NOP is the expert here and he seems to think, kind of like what I was saying when I said to just act like nothing's going on, you need to just sit back and do your thing for H and see what happens.

I know it doesn't seem fair necessarily, but no more talking about not wanting to walk on eggshells anymore, etc.

Maybe smiling & nodding is the best way to go \:\)

I'm not making light of your sitch, I just honestly don't know what to tell you. Sometimes just hearing about it isn't enough, you know? I am not actually seeing & hearing what's going on between the two of you.

Make a nice dinner for him tonight and just act like everything's great & wonderful & see what happens.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10