Some couples start out rocky and dramatic and continue with that level of interaction throughout the M. Zuzu's M seems to be a good example. 1992? When I was in college, I had a very rocky passion-filled R. We'd date for months, break up, date other people, get back together, you know the drill. Well I ended up sleeping with a police officer on one of our "breaks" and he flipped out. He had issues with the police in general so he thought that was the ultimate F-You I guess. Never really talked again after that. Went over his boundary for sure. My point is that sometimes a person can only deal with so much "chaos" in their R's and maybe your H is really struggling with his decision to break his "boundary." Whether that boundary should be there or not is not really helpful right now. HE thinks you did something unforgiveable and he is mentally going to pieces trying to accept his own choices. The 1992 date is just incredible though. To be so mentally tortured for all those years over it just seems masochistic. I'm glad he is in C. No advice really, just giving another perspective. Nop had some good advice. Hard to break the chaotic R patterns though, I know. LFL
