She wouldn't be brow-beaten, and I didn't try... I just blamed her for problems that I pretended were the result of me giving in to her demands. But she did accept that blame... she apologizes for interrupting me and such even now. Dammit, she probably still carries around some of that blame, and I can't help her without letting her see all my problems and shortcomings, past and present. That scares the hell out of me even now.
I say brow-beaten in a tongue-and-cheek kind of way. I'm not one to be brow-beaten, either, but I do give in, after a time, of consistant blame and criticism.
As far as you being scared? Good. Fear is healthy... as long as it does not immobilize you. That is where courage comes in. It is not the absence of fear, but moving forward, doing what you must, in spite of it. Which I whole-heartily believe you can do.
