No, the break was never clean. We were always the "on again/off again" couple and it was up and down almost from the start. (a blissful beginning, but after that...)
It WAS BAD of me. It was "like" cheating. I didn't cheat, but almost. I seem to remember that he went on a trip for a week and hung out with two guy friends while he was gone (Joe & Charles). They were so much fun and we drank and hung out and had a great time. NO funny business, but Joey was very possessive and when he came back the [censored] hit the fan. I tried to tell him about how much fun we had and he didn't take it very well. (I can understand now, but didn't then.) I felt controlled and pulled away more. As was usual for us, we got in a huge fight and broke up. I started to like Charles. We did end up getting together, but I honestly DO NOT remember how much time passed. I would say a couple weeks? And no, it was not a clean break, because Joey was so hurt, I think he was still initiating contact. I truly cannot remember though. We were completely apart for about 3 months. The Joe in the above scenario (the friend, not the guy I dated), is the one who is marrying my best friend in Vegas on 7-7-07. He is the one who was going to bring my best friend here for our son's baby shower and Joey flipped out not wanting him in our house (or even in our front yard.) He has since TOTALLY relaxed about Joe and shook his hand, allowed me to visit them, etc. without making him the center of the problems. I appreciate that SO much because I will always stand by my best friend and don't know what I would do if he forbid me to see her. The day that he shook Joe's hand when all of us were expecting a big dramatic event, I was instantly ATTRACTED to him and jumped his bones that night to "silently" show him my appreciation. (It was suggested by someone to verbally tell him how much I appreciate his acceptance of their relationship and his place in my friend's life and I plan to do that, but I've been trying to not stir the pot anymore than it already is.)
THank you very much for the advice. I appreciate it and I'm listening.
I truly can't remember all the details and chronology of everything. He says that that is one of the most offensive hurtful things of all.
