It isn't all your fault. I would seriously doubt that your xW knows what a boundary is, or feels like to actually set one with a parnter. No offense to her... it is a hard thing to learn. One of the reasons I let myself get brow-beaten into my xH's Book Of Should Be's is because **I** had no clue what a personal boundary was, nor how to set one and be consistant with it. So it wasn't all my xH's fault. I was responsible for not sticking up for me (as he was for himself)... in a constructive way... by setting my personal boundaries... instead... I got caught up in power struggles and rolling around in his chit. As he did with me. And we were both half responsible for our inability to get out of our own ways.
