My H blamed me a lot especially in the beginning. It helps your H justify his horrible behavior. If it wasn't your fault, then ...gosh.. it would be HIS responsibility. Maybe hard for him to handle that truth right now. I can tell you that in my case, the blame has settled down quite a bit and I am seeing more guilt and remorse. Just remember that you both have responsibility for your marital problems but the A is NOT your fault AT ALL. Your H chose a very selfish way to make himself feel better.
