Good analogy.

I've saved up a decent amount in the past year since we split. Stupidly, I am trying to think of ways to help him pay back his enormous debt to our friends. Those friends have adamantly told me this is not my problem to worry about, which I know - I just don't want this to be something that hangs over my kids' heads. I can just imagine hearing it 10 years down the road ("your dad owes so much money to my dad"). Just did some retail therapy (with my own money) and feel terribly guilty knowing he owes so much to others.

The move isn't until November, so I still have lots of time. Still need to tell him! I really want to get it over with, but the timing just isn't right. Soon...


M: 33
MLC/WAH: 33
M 6 yrs, together 12
2 kids: 5,2
Bomb #1: 4/06 - "I don't love you anymore", almost S
Bomb #2: 7/06 - EA/PA since late 05, kicked H out/S
Bomb #3: 1/07 - "No longer have any feelings for you. It's over.", living w/OW, no talk of D