Why do these things happen V

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Well with this being day 3 of not seeing wife, with at least 12 or more to go, I believe this is the time to go dark and give her all the space needed. I just planned this morning to go on vacation the day after she gets back, other than seeing her to pick up our son we will go over 3 weeks without seeing each other. I think this is going to be as much for me as it is for her.
I need to get that spine you all are talking about, I do fixate way to much on her and our marriage. I am still not really sure how to move forward or on without her around at the moment, but I guess it will be a learning experience for me.
In listening to her the last week or so I think that is what she needs or wants, completely out of each others lives for now. She still says she has no plans to file for a D, so I need to really do this and see where it leads us in the future.