I'd aim for a clear 50/50 set in stone.... and then any special requests need to be arranged 28-48 hrs in advance. And let her know if she has a work problem you will take the kids any extra hours (that way you get extra time!!!). Didn't you say she's a nurse? Maybe I'm thinking of someone else... but if so, you may have the chance to get them more than 50%.
Gosh, if I have pity for anyone in your family it's your wife. It sounds like she's hooking up with a total jerk. I feel sorry for OMW too. Please don't let this situation turn you into anything negative. Stay on that high road buddy! You are doing great.
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