I honestly don't know what to tell you, hon. I just know what worked (I guess) for me when my H was deadset on getting a D was to just act "as if" nothing was wrong / nothing was going on. It's hard & it sucks, but I just don't know what else for you to do at this point.

It doesn't seem as if he is even trying to "get over" the past and just stews about it -- it almost seems like he's using it as an excuse to cause problems in your M.

The only thing I know to advise is for you to just go about your business like nothing's wrong. I don't know if that will work or not. But, obviously, it doesn't seem like you trying to talk to him about anything works either -- he just gets mad.

I'm sorry that he seems to be just dragging this thing out. I just don't understand why all of a sudden he is making it such an issue and having such a huge problem with it. Any ideas on that?

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10