Balto I also resented that while Judy would be stressed about finances, she would give me a hard time about my hours. To my simple mind, I figured you can complain about money or you could complain about the methods used to fix the situation, but not both. That sounds like at the Lou house, circa 1976.
On the other hand, I didn't realize how lonely she was. How abandoned she felt. Didn't realize it for years. By then the damage was done. While we may still salvage a workable, pleasant relationship, something has been lost that seemingly will not be recovered. Again, I could have written the same thing. My W felt about the same way but told me through complaints of what she didn't have that the neighbors had.
I heard, she wanted a boat, wanted to fly to a vacation spot, wanted what the neighbors had. I heard make more money.
What the underlying message was, she wanted more time to do play things together.
Twenty/thirty years later, BB wants to unload all of the extra things we bought and live a simple, less cluttered life. I have some resentments because all the work I did and things we bought are now considered clutter and they are being given or thrown away.
