It's always seemed to me, reading through your thread, that you love your H and that you want your marriage. You like the attention and the praise he sometimes gives you. If you're like me, though, you're all over the map with how you feel about the sitch--sometimes down, sometimes furious, sometimes hopeful. So you don't set goals, really. You trust to God. But maybe you also trust to time, trust to affairs growing old, as they do. But the other posters have given you good advice about setting goals. When you set goals, you have to focus and think hard. I haven't found it easy. That's why I really haven't done it! It would probably be a good exercise for both of us.
