Need advice please.

[JMC]

Thanks KS. I have no problem watching the cats, and I agree with the 'lovingly detached' me. To me that means going somewhat dark. As such, I do not contact her. She just called to ask a $ question and ask where we should meet for lunch tomorrow for her to give me her key. So, I guess that answers my question as to wether or not I should meet her for lunch.

I guess I struggle with wether to carry on (I want to as I hope one day to post a success story), but wonder if it would be hopless - I know there is no answer and that all I can do is take care of myself, which I have been doing with exercise and trying to eat right (difficult as W was such a great cook and during the week would cook healthy). I have gone back to church (I like it), keep up with friends, treat W with respect, and will try not to snoop any more.