Gambling addictions tops MLC. My guess is tat your H has always been a gambler. I read through the thread you posted and noen of this stuff matters unless your H gets his gambling under control. You should be reading books like Codependent No More. (You may have already.) Do you go to AlAnon?
Also, if you are not happy with your current counselor, get a new one. You had a good idea asking the church for a recommendation.
But one thing I do know if your H is running up huge debts, there are no love languages to help that. People mean well here.
From your other thread:
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I wanted to scream: I WANT TO CHANGE! HELP ME TO CHANGE THINGS AND IMPROVE OUR MARRIAGE!
You should have scream that out. I remember yelling at my C once. Don't be afraid to confront.
While I can 't be sure, the real choice for your H is gambling or family. He may be agreeing with MLC to shut you up.
