Michele addresses the well-meaning family pretty well in DR Chapter 1. And I think what she says is true. But, there's nothing you can do but the usual stuff, work on yourself...family and friends will notice these changes, and in my case, family noticed BEFORE wife did.
As far as how to deal, Homer Mac has a chapter called "Attack Their Support" which deals in part with this. I have not read it closely, as I don't intend to attack...it would likely backfire and does not seem like a good idea to me.
