And in fact, it is usually the case that the um, 'man' that she found is just as screwed up as she is. You see, 'nice men' don't go after married women who are vulnerable emotionally.
Predators do.
My wife actually went after him some time after he stopped working on our house. However he flirted with her, and made himself available. A married woman with 3 kids. So I hear you. He is either a predator, or a real loser who has so little going on in his life, he wants to attach to the drama of my wife and our family being seperated.
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Everything is not stacked against YOU. This has nothing to do with you, nor is it about 'winning ' or 'losing'. It's about growing up to be the best man you can be, and maybe, just maybe, she might grow up to become a woman you could actually spend the rest of your life with. Right now she isn't even CLOSE.
The long distance means HE isn't going to be hanging on very long to the fantasy. Why would he? I'm sure there are less messed up women where he lives. Right now his ego is getting a boost because she gives him the attention he, as a loser, craves.
It has always been nice to hear people remind me that, as sometimes it is easy (and painful) to sit back and wonder if they have something that I and her didn't have. Is he really better than me? The answer is NO.
I realize more now than ever that i need to not concern myself with him. Or her either for that matter. It's just a hard realization that you come to. I will continue to work on myself, be a good father, and try to make this situation the best it can be.
Still right now we live in the same house, and with my seperation looming the reality of my family splitting up is a tough pill to swallow. It will be very tough that first night sleeping away from our home.
