The point Baltoman made was struck a real chord with me. He feels appreciated ar woek and respected but not so much in the home.
Think about it TAL thats pretty much how you feel like what you do isn't appreciated or important to your H hence the resentment.
I know when my kids were small and my H worked really hard he resented that I didn't think he was a wonderful husband. Actually I thought he was a lousy husband. He was a great provider financially and his hard work paid for the home. I never spent much money on myself everything went on the kids or house but he did nothing to help out around the house. No gardening no home maintenance no making dinner no you stay in bed as you've been up all night with the baby no appreciation of my own efforts. He resented me not thinking he was Mr wonderful and I resented him treating me like a housekeeper but with sex thrown in.
I have looked at my own marriage from both points of view and can see the mistakes I've made myself doubt very much if my H can see the ones he made.
The reasons for lack of sex in a marriage are not all about desire (the mistake Cemar continues to make and will never change) more about the resentments that lead to the lack of intimacy and then lack of desire IMO. Maybe more from a womans POV but I think also from a man's. Can understand why A's happen who wouldn't want someone that acts like you are perfect. Chocs wife is prime example.
