Hi Everyone, I got this sent to me in one of those forward emails. This is the best I have ever heard it explained!
The Two Wolves
One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.
He said, "My son, the battle is between two 'wolves' inside us all.
One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith."
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: "Which wolf wins?"
The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."
Husband & MC, I think one thing they left out for the evil wolf was narcissm. Husband, be sure to let us know your W's reaction. I don't believe it would phase my H.
I'm ashamed to admit, but I definitely have displayed some of the first wolf's actions, I'm striving to be like the second wolf.
Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I went to see a lawyer today to reply to my H's filing of D. When I got there she was still tied up in court so one of the other lawyers interviewed me on her behalf. He couldn't believe some of the the crazy things that my H was doing. For instance asking me to not to try to get any of the business. He was also shocked that my H would ask for joint custody of our D16 when he doesn't even have a place to live right now (remember he is living at his office...). Also there was not a reason stated why H wants a D. AR is not a no fault state. There is a divorce statute that list about 6 or 7 things why you can get a divorce. Alcoholism, Abuse, Drugs, Insanity, Separated for 18 mos or more, and not meeting necessary needs (lawyer said this meant financial). He said that he assumes that my lawyer will file a motion to dismiss the case since there wasn't anything specific mentioned. He said for all we know he told his lawyer you were insane, which we know is not the case because you are sitting right here and I don't see where you meet any of those criteria. Let them delay it, I'm in no hurry! My H will also be shocked that I went out of town to obtain lawyer. I live in a small city and I went to our capitol city to get the lawyer. It's only about 35 miles away. I know this way there won't be any of that good ole boy mentality going on with the lawyers. H will know that I'm not going to take this lying down! I don't want a D but, if since he is pushing it I will not let him walk all over me.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Glad to see you are holding your own. I am at that point also. I am going to take some control back from my H and it looks like you are doing the same. It does make me feel a little better. Take care.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
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