Today was a pretty low key though interesting day for me. I meet with one of the head hunters that we use today at work. The last couple of times that he has stopped by the office he mentioned that I wasn't my normal self and he would like to get coffee one day with me. Well today was the day. I ended up telling him a little about what was going on and that I was getting D. He then started to tell me that he cheated on his W. He was telling me what was going on in his head during the A. Really the biggest thing for him was the excitement/lure of it. But for him after a month or so he realized the sex was nolonger that exciting and that he did not want to leave his wife. He did counseling for about 6 months because he was all messed up inside his head. He did not want to leave his W and family but the excitement of the A was enticing. Could he really be happy in his M, could he really love his W the way she deserved to be loved... He admitted that he was scum for what he did ... He knew seeing me that I was either getting D or had a terminally ill kid and either way he wanted to help me if he could. I appreciated him sharing with me, it was unexpected.
Later in the afternoon the OMW called me again. She really doesn't call that often but when she does I try encourage her the best I can to use this time to better herself and love her girls as much as possible. I think our few conversations that we have really helped her(her words not mine). I try to encourage her to detach, stop fretting about the A. There is nothing either of us can do about it, let it go. Do what is best for you and rightnow our S's are not what is best for us. It did suck to hear that her H has turned into a total jerkoff to her. Besides the normal blame that the WAS gives, her H is constantly giving her F bombs and degrading her. Its not totally because I feel her husband is a total piece of sh!tt, but I do not feel any women should be treated this way, especially when she is the mother of your children. No matter what, she is always going to be the mother of this dirtballs kids and should be treated with respect because of that reason alone.
Later, once I got home tonight I grilled hotdogs and hamburgers for everyone. Afterwords my W took our girls to her sisters house. I used the time to do bills, mow the lawn, and do some shopping. I bought 2 pairs of shoes, 2 shirts and a new pair of slacks. I won't see my W until Friday, I will save the new outfit for Friday. As usual I put both girls to bed tonight and my W is off to work.
