Even during the "don'tgiveashitness" of the past 3 years, I still would occasionally flirt with my wife, and I very often told her how hot she looked. I asked her during all of this, when she said "I didn't think you wanted me anymore," I asked "how could you NOT think I did, when I said all of these things to you?" And she said "I just thought you were being nice."
People, I DAMNED NEAR HAD TO TRIP HER ON HER WAY PAST ME IN THE HALLWAY OR THE KITCHEN, to literally STEP IN FRONT OF HER, to get her to give me a hug or a kiss. I asked her about that, too, and she just said "I don't know why I do that -- I'm sorry."
No, she has intimacy issues, BIG TIME, and I STILL think she does, even with this guy (hence the lack of confidence and having to do the Google searches), and she's just not facing her issues. She knows that Choc. is going to hold a mirror up to her and make her deal with her own chit, whereas OM just flatters her and lusts after her unconditionally.
Flattery, flattery, flattery, with no accountability, and no consequences. Hell, who WOULDN'T want that???
No, I'm not buying it, Trying. My wife went from 20 years of frigidity to being a promiscuous little sl_t, without me so much as having the benefit of any of the transition.
