OM/PA, MLC and the hits keep coming............Pt2

[andyv]

Husband,

I tried to email you but I think your email limited has been reached.

[andyv]

Hey Husband,

You are doing fine. It is probably a good idea to "wean" yourself off it rather than doing a complete "cold turkey".

I tried to email you earlier, but I think you are over your limit.

I hope things have slowed down for you in your sitch.

I had a nice long talk to Virginia over the phone last night. Her experience and advice was amazing, and I felt really good after speaking with her.

I was having a bit of a downer on Mon and Tue when I was in Canberra (hence not posting for a few days). I was recieving a commendation and medal at work with a few other workmates, and I was the only one not to have my family share the moment.

DD got excited when I got home last night, and wants to take the medal in to school for show and tell, but it just wasn't the same as having them there.

But the irony of all of this was that the commendation and medal I recieved was for work I had undertaken when my R with W was taking a turn for the worse. I think the trip away (to do this job) was the straw that broke the camels back.

When you look at it, I probably deserved to be alone when I recieved it.

[Dr LOve]

AndyV

I think all of us here have that "part" to blame for the reason our Marriages in trouble. We All took things for granted. I too worked endless overtime.Ya the money was nice but...... I have not worked 1 hour over in the last two months. WE were so busy we didn't see the train leaving the station. Well I think (hope)our trains have stopped down the tracks alittle now we have to walk to where it is to hop back on. But we have to be carefull it does not see us comming or it might start moving agian.



got your E-mail
Husband

[andyv]

You are right husband.

I too have not volunteered for anything "extra" at my work. I have also asked to stay in Sydney for several months and not travel interstate (I added up over 112 days I have spent away from home during a 7 month period, in the middle of the bomb).

You really do take stock of your life when something like this happens. And if nothing else, at least you will be better prepared for your next relationship (if this one cannot be salvaged).

[Dr LOve]

Andyv-

thanks I needed you pointing out how I have been pursueing and detaching at the same time. How it going today? I have 5 hours and counting before my lunch "date". Don't know what to expect.

DETACH DETACH... I think the thing that kind of bothers me and I don't know how you handle it so well is the thoughts of detaching and "sending" her to the OM.
It's like standing by and watching some other guy drive YOUR car.

Well I log in tonight. let ya know how lunch went.

later
Husband

[andyv]

Have a good lunch.

[Walking]

Hey Andy

I enjoyed talking to you the other night. I was thinking after we spoke, how even though this is possibly the worst thing you'll ever go through in your life, it is also a period of intense growth and a time of taking your maturity to the next level. You sound like you are really getting it together.

How are you going getting the financial agreement in order?

Chin up and God bless.

Virginia

[andyv]

Hi Virginia,

Thanks for your support and help. It was good talking to you last week.

I have commenced the financial separation. W is not too pleased with it, but agrees that this is the best way.

I will cover all expenses for DD, and groceries.

It may take a few weeks to incorporate, but I think it will help me knowing that I am not funding OM's activities with my W.

She has been friendly towards me over the last few weeks, it will be interesting to see how this will change no we are getting into the serious business end of our separation and divorce.

[saddadinkc]

Hey Andyv! How are things? just catching up on sitchs

[andyv]

Same old same old Tom, How are things with you?