Madonna/Whore Complex - Part 6

[Heywyre]

LP - visit to the ST went really well as he confronted H head-on about dealing with this "fuse" inside of him and his (partial) refusal to deal with it (the partial part is him saying "I don't know why" and "there just isn't an answer"). The "fuse" being his need to call escorts. H says he "knows" it won't happen again but ST says unless he digs deep inside and knows why he does it in the first place, eventually it will raise its ugly head again and bite him in the butt. He told him, "just saying you won't do it just isn't good enough".

It has been determined that H is definitely dealing with M/W, although the ST would prefer to refer to it as attachment theory (which has been more widely accepted as a real psychological complex) and has told H that there isn't a psychologist anywhere that can give him the answer, he is the one that will have to dig deep to find that. Long story short, H knows he will never have a "fix" per se. The closest he can come to it (and the ST agreed) is understanding the reason he does this (the attachment theory) and the dynamics of his relationship with his primary caregiver (his adoptive mother). Understanding where it comes from is more than half the battle. Now that he knows this, when the feelings and emotions come up again, he will know how to handle it, based on the methods ST has and will be giving him and I in the next number of sessions. If he does that, in combination with counselling and staying on his AD, he is well on his way to kicking this whole "fuse" in the butt.