Hey Fig, I do want her as a friend...not just to get her back. I've thought about that long and hard. May that change in the future...of course...anything can. You know, she has made some very poor choices in these past few years, no doubt about it...but I know that this is not the person she is. She is in the middle of her MLC and I hope that someday she will come out of it and find herself again. I want to stand by her and be here for her through this. Don't worry...I'm pretty well detached at this point and realize that I need to move on with my life. Actually had dinner with a very lovely young lady tonight and really enjoyed myself. The other side is not so scary. But I do love my W and I don't think that will change once we are divorced.
Thanks Donna...the guilt isn't really there. I see it more as just taking ownership for my part of it and learning from it. To me, that is just a really important thing to do.
