Work brings me validation of my worth. Home doesn't.
That is still a form of 'Other Validation.' The fact that you don't feel the same way at home about yourself as you do at work tells me others have far too much influence over your sense of self-worth and self-perception. Maybe that is where you are getting derailed...???
Corri
Corri, you may have a point. On the other hand I might be a far better programmer than husband so the validation in each area may be quite justified. The bottom line at work is I do not need the external validation. Hell, sometimes the "external validation" takes the form of who disagrees and how vociferously I am disagreed with. I know how good I am in this area. It is much more easily measured than how good of a husband I am.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
