I think you handled her confrontation perfect. : ) I think you are doing great. One day she will regret her mistake.
One thing really confuses me though. She sure seems like a very sexual woman to be typing something like that to a man. Also to be researching how to satisfy a man. I am just curious if maybe she could just prefer a more agressive kind of man. Not trying to upset you at all. This could be good to figure out if things work out in your marriage again. It just sounds like maybe she prefers a very take charge kind of man. Or should I say an agressive man. I know you have said many times she just likes to feel SEX-Y. But now have any actual sex. This doesn't seem to be true maybe. Maybe she likes to play a little hard to get. But in the end she wants the man to say lay down I am taking you now woman.
Also Choc I am sure she has gone through a HUGE ray of emotions with such life altering changes. Like plastic surgery and then becomming independent and working. I know you have said you haven't cared for a long time. You haven't brought up sex and it has been nonexistent in your marriage for a long time. But for a woman who was changing in so many ways and growing and feeling better about herself and to have her husband show no concern I am sure had to hurt. She may have wondered many times while getting so sexy why you weren't all over her? Why you didn't want to kiss or see that new belly of hers. I know you were protecting your heart. But just from one woman's point of view this can be so hurtful.
Hanging my head in shame. But Choc my husband is a lot like this. Acts like he doesn't care about things. Or avoids confrontations. I have to admit I love the attention I get from other men. It is the only thing that makes me feel desired and sexy. Because my husband doesn't give me what I need. It is only flirting. But I realize lately that I flirt myself. I have NEVER taken it to another level at all. I don't think I could bring myself to ever have a physical affair. My morals would get in the way. With the recent troubles with my marriage I have realized I am a lot at fault about things to. I also think I need to be honest with him about me flirting. Or maybe it would make it worse to tell him how I am feeling. Because then he feels like less of a man. See like your wife I find it hard to talk about things. It makes my stomach turn anymore. Then things just keep getting worse and you keep growing further apart.
