We have talked about this stuff before. It is hard to explain. He just wants his freedom right now. He has never been on his own. He went from his mom to me. Now he is able to do what he wants when he wants without having to either tell someone or ask if we had plans.
He needs this. As I have said in the past, it has been good for both of us. I have learned to do so much without having to rely on him. I can even change a light fixture myself (not just the lightbulb, the whole thing). I can change an air filter in a lawn mower. I even learned how to use a chain saw. All of these things I relied on him for.
It is all a part of growing up. You have to give a little to get back in return. I choose to give him his freedom. I choose to let him live this way. If I fussed and complained, he would be long gone. He has to see I am not here to control him like I did in the past. He has to WANT to come home or be with me.
As I have said before, we don't discuss much about us. It works better that way. I would rather have him like this than not at all. If I pressure him or try to discuss too much with him, it will chase him away. He has to come to me when he is ready. If I don't talk to him for a few days, he will call me with something stupid to ask. This is his way of the communication continuing.
When a person is in MLC as he is, you can't ask too many questions. They have to find their way out themselves. You can't keep asking things or it puts them furter back.
