as for the point thing - at first it offended me, then I remember that on a recent road trip I had started it. I can't remember how it began, maybe we saw something on TV or a game or something - and I looked at her and lipped the words while doing hand gestures "you, minus one..." we went back and forth with it the whole weekend when someone did something "stupid" - that is the only time we ever did this, it's not some secret code we've used for years... or something she has ever done when we are intimate.
As for the tying up thing - we did that our first year together and it was okay... nothing major dom... I asked her about a year ago if she would like to trying it again and she said she "was not in a trusting state in our relationship and it would have to wait"
