What I am trying to point out is how you ladies DISMISS the validity of the husbands needs. LFL says the relationmship must be rock solid BEFORE the mans needs can be addressed (from his view point, there would be very little to consider rock solid). You make the comment Sex is not the only thing in a R, there are much much more things that we have to have going besides that or what kind of relationship would we really have?? You just dismissed his needs as not really valid. You want all the other things to be the "important stuff" in effect, YOUR NEEDS.
Look at it this way, each of you has your #1 need. That is the one that actually COUNTS. That is the coursework that you must not fail at. All other needs are extra credit. It helps to do them, it brings your grade up, but if you fail the regular coursework (meaning #1 need), then you fail. You can meet those other needs all you want, but they don't matter if you fail at #1. (not my opinion, that is exactly what His Needs/Her Needs says).
