I think I am an understanding person and I do except a lot of stuff that goes on here, but everyone has a limit to what they can take at a certain point.
Just out of curiosity, are you a perfectionist when it comes to your house? Or would you describe yourself more along the lines of you like things tidy?
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We are going away for the first time in 5 years on Saturday to a rush concert. My mom is staying with the kids over night so I hope this will be good for us because I really don't know if he truly wants to be with me anymore or if its just a "job".
Be very careful of that type of projection. If he is starting up a new business, and he wanted to leave you, he'd leave you before starting up the new business... as you are entitled to half of it. Don't think he wants to work his tail off, only to leave you and have you take half of what he just worked so hard to put in place.
I'd say that both of you are tired and stressed and stretched to your limit. One of the things the NOPs did was to schedule sex. Your H might be open to it??? It doesn't sound very sexy... but it sure does help with the mental frame of mind. And the days you know you have sex scheduled, you can do what you can to put yourself in the proper frame of mind, all day... and maybe not wear yourself out so much, so you aren't exhausted when you hit the bed. The sex may not be great right out of the gate, but it is a place to start... hopefully it will help with his 'mood,' and you can then start getting what you need.
No, it isn't fair that you have to be the one to do this... but you're the one here.
