Since I am not supposed to feel guilty by posting good things, I will let you all know how my weekend went.
H picked the girls up Friday night for his weekend visitation. Saturday morning my sister was getting ready for her open house on her new business and oldest daughter and I were going to go and help her. I called to see if she wanted me to pick her up but H said that he would take her. No problem with that.
H knew the thing didn't start til 12:00 but came back at 11:00 to see if she was ready to go. He stayed and helped set up the rest of the stuff with us. He even stayed for about an hour after it started. I was shocked. It seems he doesn't mind spending time with my family since my mom and dad were both there along with me sister of course. It was the first time he and my dad have seen each other since he left. I know it was awkward for both of them but it turned out good. (Great positive sign here!!!!)
H and the kids left after about an hour. I stayed a little longer and had a good time meeting new people there.
Mowed the grass Saturday night. Did some laundry Sunday. Made brownies and a chocolate pie. Gave some of the brownies to H and the chocolate pie. His eyes lit up when he got them.
This morning had to get up extra early and take D16 to take her final for her drivers license. (I feel so old) She passed and has her temporary license. I am happy for her but a little nervous with the whole thing too.
All in all, the weekend was a good one. Anytime I can have a positive thing happen, it is good.
no - I know that feeling. I felt it. But Amy's right. For many people their sitches WILL turn around. And you have been strong and a good role model (for the most part - take the meds regularly LOL) and I don't think you should stop posting.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
Kids have decided that they are on summer vacation so they don't have to do anything at the house. Boy did I let them know that was far from the truth. All I have asked them to do is make sure they pick up after themselves and wash their breakfast and lunch dishes each day. They can't even do this.
They think their day should consist of watching tv and playing on the computer. When asked to do something, they say "I'll do it tomorrow". Well, I told my oldest that when she gets off work tonight, I would pick her up tomorrow. She didn't like that much.
I called and canceled 3 of the receivers for the satellite. Now they can watch tv downstairs in the family room and that is it. No more tv in their rooms. Once they learn to respect me and be responsible, they will get their tv's back.
I called H to let him know what is going on since he has been a pretty good hands on guy lately and he agreed with me. He has called me 3 times since then discussing them. He has come up with a "chore chart" on what they will do daily. They only have to do Monday - Friday. This will help me and teach them to be responsible also. He has everything planned out down to cleaning the bathrooms. They don't have to scrub them clean, just wipe down the tub, sink and toilet. I love that he has taken the initiative to do this. Each day they have something different to do. I bet next time I ask them to do something they will listen. All I had them doing this summer was picking up after themselves and doing their own dishes. Now, they have daily chores.
What pleases me the most is he has stepped up to help me with this. I told him that our youngest wanted to go get a new game for the computer but I wouldn't take her. She was going to ask him. I told him what he did with/for them was his business. He told me that he respected my decision and he would not be taking her to get it either.
I am waiting to find out how their "discussion" went. It is going on now as I type at my house. He was going to talk to them before he took our oldest to work. I guess we shall see. He is supposed to call me and let me know.
I guess this is what you call teamwork and I should be thankful he is on board with me. Another positive here.........
So remind me again why he hasn't come home? That sounds like a mom and dad working together for the good of the kids. How come he doesn't just do that from home?
And we REALLY need any kind of positive role models on here, so please stop feeling guilty about good things happening in your life and hang around. Shoot, I'd hope you'd hang around even if your marriage was 100% back on track and everything was 100% dandy! I know I will hang around when that happens for me.
Anyway, thanks for the positive updates!!!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
- take the meds regularly LOL) and I don't think you should stop posting.
