I asked because sometimes they need to be reminded. Sometimes, you just need to take them by the hand, look deeply into their eyes...and say you were wrong. Sure, they've done the devil's all to you but they still feel entitled. Sometimes you need to bite the bullet and just say you are sorry...again and again until they say "Ok, I believe you now.".
I'm sure you still love her, warts and all, and she's connected to you by her children but she's carrying around the guilt of her affair...it'll never go away but she'll be able to release some of the negative feelings about herself if she gets the ok from you.
You'll be leaving soon. Moving far away again. She's missed you and the kids. Show her that you still care, in a masculine way, that you have the ability to forgive..and then go about your way...men, in general, lead...women follow. That's just biology.
I hope you've had a wonderful stay and that you keep the balance that you've found.
