I didn't bookmark it. Just remembered it from when you posted it a couple of weeks back.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
I don't know what to do anymore. How do I DB thru this?
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
And if she wants the divorce...give it to her? Or fight it?
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
We have lawyers on deck for that. I wouldn't be doing any of the work. We've had lawyers on deck ever since she first filed.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
We have lawyers on deck for that. I wouldn't be doing any of the work. We've had lawyers on deck ever since she first filed.
That reminds me of a funny thing my W said at our 2nd meeting. She said she wanted to get the D done because the L money was running out. I almost burst out laughing, but I held it in, didn't want to embarass her.
1) What the Freak do I care if her L money is drying up? I'm going to run out and sign D papers to make sure it fits L's billing schedule???
2) How the hell could he have used up all the money already, we haven't had any L interaction in WEEKS! Really maybe just once since the court date and that was May 2. What's he using the money for???
3) She mentioned it, and then forgot it over the ensuing 3 hours as we talked about us and our emotions and feelings and got things out. As much as I hate it, that was possible because of our forced darkness. I mean, I REALLY want to go home, but I'm OK not being there for now to make sure we're in the right place to make that happen when it happens.
So NM, go dark, make W do all the work, do your thing in the meantime, if she does get active with the L's protect yourself and don't let her bully you into things that aren't good for you, and take your sweet time! Be confident and nice. That is if you're still standing for your marriage. If not, well, sign away...
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
And if she wants the divorce...give it to her? Or fight it?
UA answered this. You can't really fight a divorce. But you don't have to agree to anything not in your best interest.
well I can string it along until she demands a date or mediation. But I'm afraid that will just make her more resentful. I'm not going to cave.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
Just got off the phone with my 2nd best friend since it looks like I don't have a 1st one anymore. He told me to run like hell. I don't get how people can just say that so easily.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
One thing I forgot. My fam and friends are telling me to file for sep. from her because of her business draining our accounts. I have been telling them that I don't think I should do anything until we sell the house. What do u guys think? I want my wife back, but I also want to cya. I have been her safety blanket for the last 11yrs. taking care of all the bills and appointments. She still goes out and spends money like nothing has changed. Getting her nails and her done, shopping. Should I file for sep. to protect myself? I am so lost these days. Should I wait until we sell the house and she gets her own place to see if she starts to miss me and me taking care of her? I'm so confused these days. I try to act like I'm ok when I'm around her, but it hurts so much. Why can't they give us another chance. Now that we know how they feel?
Oh well. What will be will be. Everything happens for a reason. I get so tired of hearing that.
