no wonder they're screwed up - absentee fathers. It's a freaking epidemic
I don't know that they were absentee, but I don't think that they had a clue what they were doing. I think they thought stubborn was a good thing. Probably didn't call it stubborn though, maybe decisive....
Mine was career military and bounced all over the globe. Explains the stubborn portion right there.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
I think she might NEED to be shocked out of the tunnel.
Can she grab my W's hand and drag her along when she decides to exit?
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
I wrapped up my 9 pager just now. Funny thing is I've already talked to W about most of this stuff in our 5 hours together, but it sure hits home when you see it on paper.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
Oh yeah, I know. My W is feeling the same way. She sees I didn't mean to hurt her, and I think she believes that (judging by the look in her eyes) but she can't reconcile that yet with what she's been telling herself, that I'm a huge jerk for not figuring it out, etc.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
I shall live vicariously thru your successes for now.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
I shall live vicariously thru your successes for now.
You just need to follow suit and get quiet. Quit worrying about what W is doing for a while. Jazz and I have tiny successes but we're not done by a long shot. Our general attitudes are just in a different place (mine's better than Jazz's now ) and you have to get there. Quit pursuing, quit worrying, quit trying fix, but DON'T QUIT on you. Get it? Got it? Good.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
I shall live vicariously thru your successes for now.
You just need to follow suit and get quiet. Quit worrying about what W is doing for a while. Jazz and I have tiny successes but we're not done by a long shot. Our general attitudes are just in a different place (mine's better than Jazz's now ) and you have to get there. Quit pursuing, quit worrying, quit trying fix, but DON'T QUIT on you. Get it? Got it? Good.
I shall live vicariously thru your successes for now.
You just need to follow suit and get quiet. Quit worrying about what W is doing for a while. Jazz and I have tiny successes but we're not done by a long shot. Our general attitudes are just in a different place (mine's better than Jazz's now ) and you have to get there. Quit pursuing, quit worrying, quit trying fix, but DON'T QUIT on you. Get it? Got it? Good.
Oh SNAP! Sparky's got a bite!
It's Spike, if you must know
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
) and you have to get there. Quit pursuing, quit worrying, quit trying fix, but DON'T QUIT on you. Get it? Got it? Good.