How would you guys interpret this email I got from my wife a couple weeks ago?
Here's the latest email I received from my wife.
Hope you are o.k. Sorry if I was harsh - all very emotional for both of us. You've really been trying, I know. I don't question your devotion, just have my stuff to deal with and years of frustrations, disconnect and miscommunication. You can't rebuild when it gets broken beyond repair.
I will always love you for Sabrina (D 1 1/2), but am not capable of this. You deserve better.
I'm sorry.
Should I stop trying and let her go or keep fighting for her love? Should I wait to do anything until the we sell the house and get out on our own to see if anything changes or should I file for sep. like everyone is telling me?
Do you have your own thread around here somewhere, BM07?
We can't offer much if we don't know the whole story.
If you don't, please start one and we'll see you there..
Put it in all in Piggly Wiggly bags and toss it in the back of the pickup when he comes to pick up D7. Have Bubba and Vern come over to help with the big stuff out back. Then sit up on the porch and crack open a cold one as he pulls out the driveway.
KS - Thats what I'm thinking, but my dam pride keeps on getting in the way. Afterall, she's the one that is walking away. She doesn't even want to try to make it work. She says she has been trying for years. We just had a child together less then 2 yrs ago. Started a business together. She has been trying to cope with being unhappy but not trying to fix or resolve anything. She never asked to go to couseling. Never talk to anyone. I just thought we were stressed out with all the stuff going on in our lives. We also have bought 6 rental properties over the last 3 yrs. She signed all the papers with out once saying that maybe we shouldn't do this since I'm not sure if I really love you. Or maybe we shouldn't have a child together since I don't really want to spend the rest of my life with you. We tried to have a child together for over a year. Why now? What has changed? Possibly an EA like everyone keeps on telling me. I really don't know where she would find the time. All I remember is her telling me a couple months ago before she dropped the ILYBNILWY bomb that she wasn't sure if we were right for eachother. She said maybe were 2 different people. With 2 different personalities (I'm emotional she's not). Sometimes I would let me anger and resentment get the best of me for having to pull all the weight, but I never thought about quitting. News flash - we are 2 different people; so is everybody. Like snowflakes. Sometimes opposites attract. Regardless, anything worth fighting for takes work. The bottom line is she's tired of trying to make it work by suffering in silence. She says she has no will left, can't breath, is emotionally beaten down. I have said that it's her business that is causing most of this. But, she says it only put a magnifying glass on our relationship. I too feel beaten down. What she has put me through these last few months is nothing compared to me getting upset and telling her to shutup or something stupid like that. While she was off training for her new business I was at home taking care of our 1 yr old daughter and our house and pets and bills. Yes, I did get upset and felt resentful and used. But, again I never thought for a second about walking away and disregarding our wedding vows to eachother.
I feel for all of you. These times really suck. No other way to describe it.
= UA