H's doc doesn't agree with my theory of the medications being the cause of his "extreme" problems with alcohol and wreckless spending. He believes that his only problem is the alcohol. He told me that unless .. or until(?) H decides to go (for even just a month) without alcohol, he couldn't .. in good conscience, try a change in his prescription regimen.
I asked him if he didn't think that it was just too much of a coincidence that all of this came about shortly after he began on his new prescriptions three years ago? H's doc said no.
So .. I am feeling pretty confused/hopeless right now!
Apparently H's pyschiatrist gave him samples of Campral (sp?) quite some time ago. H's doc thought it might have been a year or so ago. The Campral is supposed to help with alcohol cravings. Well, my H never let me in on this .. more than likely 'cause he did want to stop the alcohol? H's doc maintains that if H could even just try to get off the alcohol for even just a month, he could determine if he needs a med change.
I left this appointment yesterday telling H's doc that I guess I was just going to "show up" tomorrow morning to H's appt. with him. I am pretty nervous about this .. 'cause I think I can almost predict how my H will respond. He will be angry that I'm making it my business, he will feel like I am betraying him, he will be mad that I felt it was my business to fill in his doc about all of what is going on .. and on and on.
H's doctor said that he could offer the Campral samples to H again. We both thought that there would be a good (better?) probability that H would feel that he would have to at leat try it, since I'll be at the appointment and will know all about this.
Does ANYONE have any words of wisdom/suggestions as to what I can say, how I can come across talking to H at his doc appt. .. so that he won't be feeling so attacked. I just know he is going to "spew out" something to the affect that if I hate him so much, why don't I just divorce him. All I am truly trying to do is get my husband back .. and it is BECAUSE I love him that I am working so hard at this ... SIGH.
