My marriage is hopeless IV

[faithisbelieving]

Em...not much to add except some lines that I've gotten. I've only held onto the ones that truly mean something. Throw away the term "babysteps". Throw away the phrase , "why don't you go back to being the same man you were when she met you."

Hold on to these tho':
1) " Continue to be the same strong and loving husband you've always been"
2) There isn't a lot you can do to bring her back to you but there is a LOT you can do to push her away.

You can't stop your W from pushing thru this D, but, you can "hold onto your N.U.T.S"....you can continue to love your daughters. I can't overemphasize how important this is. Your W is willing to strip them of having an intact family. She is willing to risk them having their own marital problems. YOU....are the man to stop this...to show them...to show them that they are loved...how a REAL man acts.

When they D us Em, we lose control..and this is EXTREMELY hard for us...as men...to handle. The only way to get back control is to:
-be brave and open that door WIDE for her to leave
-show no weakness
-be 'da man'
-continue to be a great father
-be firm and resolute IF the D goes thru to do WHAT YOU THINK IS BEST AND SAFEST FOR YOUR 2 BEAUTIFUL GIRLS (and I saw the pic..they remind me of my little girl)

I note from your posts that you still have a tendency to defend yourself or to try and put reason on this.

Stop EM. You don't need to do this. Believe in yourself. Just listen to her. If she asks you if you love her, just say yes. It needs no explanation. If she asked you if you forgave her....either a yes or no if you are honest. Again, listen more, talk less.

Wordy post...I just want to let you know that you are not alone...and others..including me...are walking beside you in spirit..down the same path.

Strength and honor....and give those two girls a big hug tonite.

Strength and honor.

Frank