My just told me that she is done because I ‘abandoned’ her and D3. My W was willing to go to counseling and church to help work on the marriage when I was leaving the house. I know I should have NEVER left. I was just reacting emotionally being all upset because she was calling my family and trying to make me look bad. I had a job that wasn’t working out because I was still in school and working another job on the side that my employer didn’t know about. This was affecting my work performance and I sat down with my employer and told him that I had a lot going on and that it just seems like this job is not working out. We both agreed and my employer asked me to stay with the company for another 6 weeks so that he could find a replacement and I can train the new person. I agreed. I told my wife and she was understanding and encouraged me to keep looking for work. My wife then calls my sister and mom and tells them that I was fired and I didn’t want anyone to know. She told them that I am selfish and always golfing with my father instead of waking up in the morning with them. My wife complained that I didn’t do more things with my D3 like I was when we separated.
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“You once again had secret relationships with other women, you were keeping secrets from me (Going to lunch and girl at work asking about how my weekend was. I told my wife about this and she was upset initially. I told her that I have no interest in her, she has 4 kids and 2 foster kids. My wife then responded that I need to keep work relationships at work and nothing else. I assured her of this). You were still golfing every Sat & Sunday, you were choosing to go to sporting events with your friends. you were pissed when i went to your work, you packed your suitcase and left us! Out of the blue you were accusing me of doing things with other people during our separation, you have never been a jealous person, which only means that the old saying the accuser is usually feeling guilty about something and trying to find some way to make himself feel better. BUT guess what? It doesn't work on me anymore...you used to be able to mess with my head, hurt my heart and make me doubt myself more than I doubted you....not anymore.
I am trying to leave on good terms, but you always try to play this victim role when you are only a victim when it comes to your own behaviors and actions.
Stop trying to send me the old emails when I was interested in trying.
This was sent to me March 26.
OneWish's Story
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