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Originally Posted By: JazzzGtr
Originally Posted By: NMHurting
You want me to try and be a Jazz?
I'd love to see that. Her caffeine intake would triple.

Then maybe she'll hit me with the big stick...I could use it.


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One thing I forgot. My fam and friends are telling me to file for sep. from her because of her business draining our accounts.
I have been telling them that I don't think I should do anything until we sell the house. What do u guys think? I want my wife back, but I also want to cya. I have been her safety blanket for the last 11yrs. taking care of all the bills and appointments. She still goes out and spends money like nothing has changed. Getting her nails and her done, shopping. Should I file for sep. to protect myself? I am so lost these days. Should I wait until we sell the house and she gets her own place to see if she starts to miss me and me taking care of her? I'm so confused these days. I try to act like I'm ok when I'm around her, but it hurts so much. Why can't they give us another chance. Now that we know how they feel?

Oh well. What will be will be. Everything happens for a reason. I get so tired of hearing that.

take care, BM

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BM I am not the person to be asking probably. As I've enabled my wife's spending for many, many years. You see what happened to me when I pulled the reins back. But each situation is different...maybe tell her you guys need to have a meeting regarding finances and make sure you stick to only the facts and that conversation?


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Oh i got email back..fire and brimstone about money. I'm not replying.


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Sounds like a short trip to me.

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a couple of things:

To quote Sound Garden - "The grass is only greener where the dog has sh!t"

If you can be friends divorced, you can be friends married.

And to paraphrase Oscar Wilde - "The greatest thing is to truly live! Most people just exist that is all."


We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.

3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...

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Like I have a choice in being dark at this point.


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Yeah, but i'll put money on the fact mine will file. She already did once. I countered. That's where it's sat. At least Sheila never filed on you Jazz.


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Originally Posted By: NMHurting
Yeah, but i'll put money on the fact mine will file. She already did once. I countered. That's where it's sat. At least Sheila never filed on you Jazz.


Well, there ya go.
Speak life into that marriage, NM.


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How would you guys interpret this email I got from my wife a couple weeks ago?

Here's the latest email I received from my wife.

Hope you are o.k. Sorry if I was harsh - all very emotional for both of us. You've really been trying, I know. I don't question your devotion, just have my stuff to deal with and years of frustrations, disconnect and miscommunication. You can't rebuild when it gets broken beyond repair.

I will always love you for Sabrina (D 1 1/2), but am not capable of this. You deserve better.

I'm sorry.


Should I stop trying and let her go or keep fighting for her love? Should I wait to do anything until the we sell the house and get out on our own to see if anything changes or should I file for sep. like everyone is telling me?


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