Ok guys…here is what I am thinking. I’m really battling with this right now particularly since I keep finding out things that add to my suspicions. I am contemplating putting forward a few “demands” for lack of a better word. If she agrees and attempts to follow through, then I have an idea she is sincere. If she flat out refuses, then I think I know that she wants to come back for other reasons. 1.) Get rid of the “work” cell phone. This is her secret cell phone which she tells me was issued by her job but I know differently. 2.) Disclosure of the past 16 months activities. Not necessarily details but I do want to know if there is any “unfinished” business out there and I don’t want to be blindsided by something down the road. 3.) Percentage contribution to family finances. Over the last couple of years I have paid all the bills while allowing her to spend her check however she pleased. In order for us to clear up the little debt we have I will ask her to contribute a percentage of her income to help pay bills. 4.) No more lying. This needs no definition. 5.) Department transfer or find another job. Unfortunately she has befriended a girl in her department who cheats regularly on her husband and the person she first cheated on me with works in the same building. As they say…”misery loves company”. It’s my opinion that as long as she has regular contact with these people, repairing a relationship is going to be extremely difficult.
I welcome any other ideas some of you may have. These are just some things I have thought about and are ion no way “set in stone”. I’d appreciate any feedback.
