Why do these things happen V

[JR2007]

Tells me she has no plans to file for divorce. Last month was dead set and doing so.

There you go. Leave it at that, stay sober, be kind and patient, and look forward to your new marriage which is coming soon.

and I thought it was about the laundry.

That's what I like to see! Some sense of humor.

Go Rent Anchorman and watch that over and over, or pretty much anything by Will Farrell - Old School is hilarious, or Talladega Nights. That'll get the old funny bone workin over time.

[789]

I was thinking more along the lines of some tear jerker.

Well 24 hours down, 312 to go.

[mkultra]

I am not sure about her telling you to move on. What does that mean? Do they really want us to move on which would mean seeing other people? That is crazy! It sounds like she is not ready to let you go but that she is pushing you away. Is that some kind of test?

[mkultra]

Are you looking for a tear jerker? I read that Away From Her is a beautiful reaffirming movie that explores a long term marriage. The H nurses his wife in her final battle with Alzheimer's. Maybe it is like the Notebook?

[789]

I am not sure about her telling you to move on. What does that mean? Do they really want us to move on which would mean seeing other people? That is crazy! It sounds like she is not ready to let you go but that she is pushing you away. Is that some kind of test?

I am not sure about that either, I guess that is why they call this a roller-coaster event. I really believe at this time she does not want me out dating, just as I don't think she does either. Not sure if she is pushing me away, she keeps inviting me over for dinner. I sometimes think the suggests I move on is because if I do, and go out dating she will not feel guilty about filing. But as always, I think way to much.

[789]

LOL I was kidding about the tear-jerker movie, that is the last thing I need in my life, but thanks for thinking about one.

[789]

Tired of phone calls from friends.
I am getting so tired of every friend I have telling me to move on, or they have a friend they want to set me up with. Is that how people move on, just go out and get laid. I guess I wish I could do that sometimes, but that is not me. They know that we still talk some, they know she invites me for dinner, but they just say bust a move and go out. I wish life were that easy.

[JR2007]

Remember they're your friends and they just want you to feel better as soon as possible. They see you suffering and they want to help it end. It's not that they don't care about your family, it's that they want you to feel better. Take what they say as good intentioned, and let them know where you are with your goals, hopes and desires for your family. They'll support you if they know that will make you happier than giving up.

Family may be the same way. My family is actually really supportive. They love my W, and want her to come back almost as much as I do. Fortunately my friends understand where I'm coming from too, so they're very supportive too.

How's the darkness treating you? Getting used to it yet?

[789]

I know they are my friends, and they also know what I want. It just gets me pissed, it is like they want me to end it now, wonder if they actually know something I don't.

As for darkness, it sucks man. I am trying to stay busy. Just dropped son off for school. He is great, even beat me in a couple of games of darts last nite.

I don't know how you do it and be such a chipper chihuaha at the same time.

[JR2007]

I know they are my friends, and they also know what I want. It just gets me pissed, it is like they want me to end it now, wonder if they actually know something I don't.

As for darkness, it sucks man. I am trying to stay busy. Just dropped son off for school. He is great, even beat me in a couple of games of darts last nite.

I don't know how you do it and be such a chipper chihuaha at the same time.

Your friends don't know ANYTHING. Put that out of your head right now. They're just trying to help you feel better fast. Sometimes fast isn't the best answer.

What choice do I have? I can let this defeat me, or I can let it create a new stronger me. I prefer the new stronger me. You know I want to go home. You know I miss my W and S terribly. But I can only control ME. I believe it and I'm acting on it. I am also being supported by my Heavenly Father. My faith in Him grows daily. I know He wants my family together. I know He's removing obstacles from my path. And I also know He wants me to learn. Sometimes the lessons take more time than we'd like. I remind myself of that every day and I stay close to him through prayer and I feel good. He is filling the void in my heart temporarilly until my family can fill it again. How could I possibly look at the blessings I'm getting from Him and remain despondent, depressed, or hopeless. I can't, it would be way too ungrateful, and I already did my share of that over the last 11 years, I won't do it again.