It is not easy to set aside the time to make a marriage work. But it is necessary. I still say going back to the post sessions is the best theing you can do. My program was 4 hours on Sundays. We did 2 Chapters each week.
You should have the Retrouvaille Post book. Until you get back to Retrouvaille, start using the book and doing the dialogues every day. 20 minutes a day -- not that much time to make your lives 100% better. Start at the beginning of the book, read through the chapters, do one of the questions. Do a question a night, or make up your own question. Just make sure the question is phrased "how do I feel about X?
The most important thing in a marriage is communication. If you do the dialoguing and follow the rules, you will have daily effective communication. This will help, but it only works if you do it.
