Tiny Ray of Light....IV

[osu43130]

NMH,
I have not posted to you before but thought I would stop by and read a little today.

I have to agree with UA and T2, Do not reply to her anymore. Go dark and take care of your buisness.

I am not uit sure what happened to get you this far but I will try and get caught up on your sitch.

Also as well as your reply. I think it was perfect.

Now it is time to just let her stew and realize that her bullying you is not going to work.

One last thing. The lessons for your D. Are you going to pay for all of them? I would simply suggest that you split the cost with your W. It is something that will happen later on down the line and if she was to see what life is like on the other side of the fence let her.

This has just become your our own personal buisness now and needs to be treated that way.

Just my two cents.

By the way I do not know if you have read my thread at all but my W tried the same thing to me and I gave in for a while. Once I quit giving in and started to make her responsible for her own actions two things happened.

1) She got really pissed off and back way off wanting to fight all of the tome and throw the guilt trip on me.

then

2) She can not get enough family time now. We spend three or four evenings a week together as a family now and she is nicer to me than she has been for the past year or so.

So basically what I am trying to say is that when you take a strong and firm stand with her it will get worse before it ever gets better. Sounds like you have been her safty blanket for some time now. Take it away but in a loving way.