Hopeless, I would not worry to much about the TM...Yes, your H is being cowardly. Yes, he is acting like a little brat. Yes, he is selfish and shallow. I know it is hard to let go/detach when the WAS reopens wounds like this. But from what I am reading and if you have kept track of all the spending and selling, you will get more then your fare share after the D. His TM means only that he is frustrated and you are the only person he can take it out on. I think this is normal, I know that my W does this to me. BTW, I would change the locks to the house so H cannot come by while you are out of town and take anything..... It sucks to have to think this way but I would do it if I where you.
Let your hair down, put on that smoking hot new bikini and ENJOY your vacation....
